Everything that we want is on the other side of our fear and often requires doing what is uncomfortable. Using an example of this, when you are at a party and you start eyeing a beautiful tall brunette in the corner sitting on the couch alone. What do you do? Do you go over and talk to her? Do you try to get her to come and talk to you? Do you stay within your comfort zone and leave the party without even saying hi? If you answered the latter, you are not alone. Many know what they want in a relationship; however, they wont take the action necessary in order to get it. They would if they understood that it only takes 30 second to change your life.
20 Seconds of Insane Courage
In the movie, We Bought a Zoo, Benjamin Mee, played by Matt Damon turns to his son and says:
“You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.”
It literally takes less than 20 seconds to initiate a conversation with a girl. It takes 20 seconds for her to say yes or no. However, It takes a lifetime to get over never taking the chance. Show some courage and take a chance!
A few months ago I met a man in a little deli by my house. For his privacy we will call him Jack. As I spoke with Jack he told me he was a musician, and a music teacher. He is 40 years old and has never been married. As we talked, he told me about this great girl he had met at a party. She was by far the cutest girl at the party and she had talked to him for about 20 minutes. After their conversation she handed a business card with her information on it and told him to call.
A month after their conversation, he still had not called her. Then he gave me an excuse as most people do in order to justify their lack of action. He was scared that it had just been a business contact as opposed to a potential date. I told him it didn’t matter. The point was not whether she was going to say yes or no, the point was he didn’t even throw his hat in the ring. That girl could have been waiting by the phone for Jack to call, and he didn’t even bother to call.
If a girl gives you her number and you are interested then call her. The worst she can do is say no. However the best she can do is say yes.
What’s missing in your life because you were too scared to take action. Did you miss the chance to talk to a girl that really interested you at a party because you were scared? How many opportunities have you missed out on?
Remember that all it takes is 20 seconds of insane courage.
If you need to start taking more action and showing more courage contact me for a free consultation and we can discuss how you can begin to apply this in your own life.